人是怎么废掉的 How do people lost self

小时候我们有很大的理想，以后想有所成就，想要活的潇洒有面子，但是……

​​看到这个标题，我们应该有很多答案，小时候我们有很大的理想，以后想有所成就，想要活的潇洒有面子，我们想买一辆豪车，想住别墅，想畅游世界，想不永上班就有很多钱花.但是毕业后步入社会，才知道一切都没那么简单，成功的路并不好走，纵观我们社会上的成功人士，国外的有比尔盖茨，巴菲特，国内有李嘉诚，马云等，但是也有很多人普通的人和没有成功的人,甚至是废人.

造成人们或成功或失败的因素是非常多的，可能是环境因素，可能是家庭因素，我感觉人被废掉的根源究其根本还是因为自己内心，因为人的思想与他的行为是密不可分的，如果一个人有错误的思想，就会容易被欲望所控制，甚至做出不好的行为，慢慢的走向平庸.

总体来讲，人之所以会慢慢废掉，我认为主要有以下四个原因：

1.懒惰的思想只会养出一个懒惰的人，越懒越依赖于外界的信息刺激

Lazy thinking can only bring up a lazy person. The lazier you are, the more dependent you are on external information stimulation

俗话来讲，善有善报，恶有恶报，有恶行恶念，世界会纠正你，法律会惩罚你，但是你懒，除非自己拯救，否则就会堕落，把自己废掉.

As the saying goes, the world will correct you and the law will punish you. But you are lazy. Unless you save yourself, you will fall and get rid of yourself

简单来说，越懒的人越穷，越穷的人，越喜欢躺着无所事事看电视，刷抖音，看直播；越富有的人，越喜欢接收信息密度高、需要思考后才能吸收的信息

In short, the lazier the poorer, the poorer the more they like to lie idle and watch TV, tremble, and watch live broadcasts; the richer the people, the more they like to receive information with high information density and need to think before they can absorbs.

越穷的人，越喜欢被动灌输，大脑处于空白状态，被外界的信息所控制；与之相反，那些稍微富有的人，往往具备一定的主动性与思考能力，他们愿意思索正确与否，愿意反思自己，同时纠正错误行为。

The poorer people, the more they like passive indoctrination. The brain is in a blank state and controlled by external information. On the contrary, those who are slightly rich often have some initiative and thinking ability. Reflect on yourself while correcting wrongdoing.

其实过得不好真的不是因为你穷，而是因为你内心的匮乏与行动的迟缓你，最高级的活法是，活成你自己。《迷失东京》里有句话说：“你越了解自己，了解自己要什么，你越不会被困扰。”

In fact, it's not because you are poor, but because of your inner lack and slow action. The highest way to live is to live your own life. There is a saying in lost Tokyo: "the more you know yourself and what you want, the less you will be bothered."

2.沉迷虚幻世界瞎意淫,沉溺于轻易获得高成就感的事情.

Indulge in the unreal world, indulge in the things with high sense of achievement

我们经常看到新闻或者电视，年轻人高不成低不就，好的工作不好找，不好的工作看不上，于是就天天在家玩游戏，沉迷于虚幻世界找满足感.

We often see news or television. Young people are not good enough. Good jobs are not easy to find, and bad jobs are not worthy of attention. So we play games at home every day and indulge in the fantasy world to find satisfaction.

为什么玩游戏会让人沉迷呢？游戏的设计原理就是让玩家以低成本快速获得较多的快乐和成就感，这是游戏趣味性的来源，人在游戏中能体验到高频率的成就感，从而陷入恶性循环.

Why is playing games addictive? The design principle of the game is to allow players to quickly get more happiness and sense of accomplishment at a low cost. This is the source of the fun of the game. People can experience a high frequency of sense of accomplishment in the game, thus falling into a vicious circle.

然而这种行为会逐渐提高你的“满足点”，使得生活中正常的成就很难让你感到满足，进而沉溺于高回报、高成就感的事，哪怕是虚假的。越是沉迷其中，月能减轻对现实世界的失望

However, this behavior will gradually increase your "satisfaction point", making normal achievements in life difficult to make you feel satisfied, and then indulging in high-return, high-fulfillment things, even if it is false. The more obsessed with it, the month can ease the disappointment of the real world,

比玩游戏还更深一步的就是犯法的：赌博（轻易获得「金钱」）、吸毒（轻易获得「爽」的感觉）等。如果走到这一步，那等于说放弃自己了.

One step deeper than playing games is illegal: gambling (easy access to "money"), drug use (easy access to "cool" feeling), etc. If you come to this step, it is tantamount to giving up yourself.

3.缺乏自律，安于现状,，享受安逸，放弃自我和奋斗

Lack of self-discipline, be content with the status quo, enjoy ease, give up self and struggle

自律这一个词，看似简单，实则很难，但却也是你有没有被废掉的主要阻力。慢慢废掉的人基本上都是行为懒散，缺乏动力和毅力，也不能够长久地坚持，遇到一点点诱惑或者说是挫折就会放弃计划.

The word self-discipline may seem simple, but it is very difficult, but it is also the main resistance to whether you have been abolished. People who are slowly abolishing are basically lazy, lacking motivation and perseverance, and cannot persist for a long time. They will abandon their plans when they encounter a little temptation or frustration.

比如我们对工作和生活的态度是得过且过的，每天按部就班上下班，不思进取，老板给一点利益，画个大饼糊弄一下，就满怀希望了，导致失去大把机会的资源.

For example, we have a decent attitude towards work and life. Every day we go to work step by step. We do n’t think about making progress. The boss gives a little benefit and draws a big cake. It is full of hope and leads to the loss of a lot of resources for opportunities.

4.错位相比，怨天尤人

Compared with dislocation, and complaining

习惯于拿自己擅长的东西和别人不擅长的东西比较，从来获得比别人强的错觉，所以就会没有进步.

I am used to comparing what I am good at with what others are not good at, and I always get the illusion that I am better than others, so I will not make progress

抱怨是一种负面情绪，容易抱怨的人内心的都是阴暗，社会中不好的一面，内心就不会有阳光，因此很容易被情绪控制，尤其是遭受挫折的时候.

Complaining is a kind of negative emotion. People who are prone to complain are all gloomy in their heart. The bad side of society will not have sunshine in their heart, so they are easily controlled by emotions, especially when they suffer setbacks

其实生活的好坏，不在于你此时过得怎么样，而在于你现在的生活与你内心的渴求是否一致。心中无向往，你就永远不可能到达远方。心中有桃园，世上就有十里桃林为你盛开。

In fact, the quality of life does not depend on how you live at this time, but on whether your current life is consistent with your inner desire. Without yearning in your heart, you can never reach far away. There is a peach garden in my heart, and there are ten miles peach forests blooming for you.

写完这篇文章，我反复读了几遍，感觉这不就是自己的写照吗,自己内心陷入了深深的焦虑，我们要好好反思自己，不能让自己的一生就浑浑噩噩的过了.

开头我们提到比尔盖茨，巴菲他，所有人都说他们伟大，伟大的意义在于坚持从事琐碎和流程化的努力，然后水滴石穿成就伟大。而废了的人，只看到了伟大，没有看到伟大背后的琐碎。

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