9 /12《Option B》笔记

这章写得是对于处于创伤中的小孩，家长老师或朋友应该如何指导他们健康成长。对于这种创伤，要有长期抗战的准备："resilience is not a fixed personality trait. It's a lifelong project." 因为有些是创伤不可逆的，如丧亲、残疾、受虐待等……

有四个方面可以对孩子们进行指导：

1-人生是可控的，而不是失控

2-失败可让人成长

3- 让他们感受到自己是重要的

4- 让他们感受到安全及可依靠

其中第二点作者还提及了《Mindset 》一书中的关于封闭型心智和成长型心智对小孩的行为的不同影响。其中，成长型心智特别有利于小孩复原。"Psychologist Carol Dweck has shown that children respond better to adversity when they have a grill mindset instead of the fixed one....when kids have a growth mindset they see abilities as the skills that can be learned and developed they can work to improve."

特别喜欢书中这句话：

“I may not be a natural actor, but if I rehearse enough I can shine on the stage .”

生词好句：

Know-doing  gap 知易行难

原文：There's a knowing-doing gap: many parents and teachers understand the idea but do not always succeed in applying it.