Are We the So-called "Big C

On this particular day, adults often joke at each other, sending "Happy Children's Day, my dear big child" on SNS. Occasionally, friends and colleagues might reply: Thanks. I am a 80kg big boy, where's my Children's Day present? Imagining the appearance of a 80kg big boy rings me the question——are adults the so-called "big children"? My answer to that would be definitely not and probably yes. I assume most of people reading this essay are over 18 years old, so I substitute the word "adults" for "we". 

  We have changed dramatically since childhood: physically, now we have a much more powerful physique; cognitively, now we speak in profound terms,  think in logic, and do things in a planned fashion. From the biological perspective, 2 distinguishing features humans have and hold dear from animals are walking in an upright manner and using language, of which both two take place in childhood. Literally speaking, we  biologically transformed from "animals" to "humans" in childhood: from a baby climbing around to a toddler, from babbling to meaningful words, from concrete thinking to manipulating abstract  concepts——there is not a change, not a change at all, ever more significant than that. 

  It is too early to celebrate. When it comes to, such as coping with life predicament,  gratifying needs, or addressing intimacy issues, the intuitive and childish way of thinking  has changed little since, say, we were 6 or 8. What's worse is that we tend to follow our intuition most of the time and make up a coherent story or an excuse  to embellish what we have done. A 6-year-old doesn't want to do his (or her) homework, coming up with the story  of leaving finished homework at home: coherent as the story might be, no one except himself (or herself) would believe. Do not ridicule such a 6-year-old: as "grown-ups", we've done such self-lying things countless times. 

  Freud was right. He coined the term "Id" that in German literally means "it", referring to the child-like, or even animal-like part of personality; the seemingly absurd, immature defensive techniques against anxiety, we "grown-ups" readily use them everyday. 

  "Grown-up" is relative, not a particular word for adults: adults are not "grown-ups", but constantly "growing up". The little children in our mind require development and respectively, we are both their fathers and mothers.