界线迷思

✔基督徒不要害怕设立界线

我知道怎样处卑贱，也知道怎样处丰富；或饱足，或饥饿；或有余，或缺乏，随事随在，我都得了秘诀。  (腓立比书 4:12 和合本)

I know how to be abased, and I know also how to abound: in everything and in all things have I learned the secret both to be filled and to be hungry, both to abound and to be in want.  (Philippians 4:12 ASV)

我靠着那加给我力量的，凡事都能作。  (腓立比书 4:13 和合本)

I can do all things in him that strengtheneth me.  (Philippians 4:13 ASV)

我的　神必照他荣耀的丰富，在基督耶稣里，使你们一切所需用的都充足。  (腓立比书 4:19 和合本)

And my God shall supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.  (Philippians 4:19 ASV)

✔我们的需要是我们自己的责任。

因为我们众人必要在基督台前显露出来，叫各人按着本身所行的，或善或恶受报。 (哥林多后书 5:10 和合本)

For we must all be made manifest before the judgment-seat of Christ; that each one may receive the things donein the body, according to what he hath done, whether it begood or bad. (2 Corinthians 5:10 ASV)

✔管家

我们应发展我们的生命、能力、思想、行为。

✔缺少界线才是不服从

我喜爱良善（或译：怜恤），不喜爱祭祀；喜爱认识　神，胜于燔祭。 (何西阿书 6:6 和合本)

For I desire goodness, and not sacrifice; and the knowledge of God more than burnt-offerings.  (Hosea 6:6 ASV)

各人要随本心所酌定的，不要作难，不要勉强，因为捐得乐意的人是　神所喜爱的。  (哥林多后书 9:7 和合本)

Let each man give according as he has determined in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion. for God loves a cheerful giver.  (2 Corinthians 9:7 WEB)

爱里没有惧怕；爱既完全，就把惧怕除去。因为惧怕里含着刑罚，惧怕的人在爱里未得完全。  (约翰一书 4:18 和合本)

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has punishment. He who fears is not made perfect in love.  (1 John 4:18 WEB)

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“人都说你们好的时候，你们就有祸了！因为他们的祖宗待假先知也是这样。” (路加福音 6:26 和合本)

Woe,whenmen speak well of you,for their fathers did the same thing to the false prophets. (Luke 6:26 WEB)

设立界线与说出事实有关。《圣经》很清楚地区分喜爱真理的人与不喜爱真理的人。第一种人欢迎你设立界线,接受并倾听你的界线,他说:“我很高兴你有不同的观点,它让我成为一个比较好的人”这样的人是智者或义人。第二种人痛恨界线,厌恶你与他们不同,试着要驱使你放弃你的宝物。我们可用“石蕊试纸”来测试那些你认为重要的关系。在某些地方向他们说不,你不是发现你们的关系变得更为亲密,就是明白你们之间根本没有什么好开始的。

✔不必担心设立界线会造成伤害。

爱心，有根有基。

凡事谦虚、温柔、忍耐，用爱心互相宽容，  (以弗所书 4:2 和合本)

用和平彼此联络，竭力保守圣灵所赐合而为一的心。  (以弗所书 4:3 和合本)

being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.  (Ephesians 4:3 WEB)

✔界线与发怒

所以你们要彼此认罪，互相代求，使你们可以得医治。义人祈祷所发的力量是大有功效的。  (雅各书 5:16 和合本)

Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective.  (James 5:16 WEB)

✔界线减少怒气

✔接受别人的界限:

我先前写信叫你们忧愁，我后来虽然懊悔，如今却不懊悔；因我知道，那信叫你们忧愁不过是暂时的。  (哥林多后书 7:8 和合本)

For though I grieved you with my letter, I do not regret it, though I did regret it. For I see that my letter made you grieve, though just for a while.  (2 Corinthians 7:8 WEB)

如今我欢喜，不是因你们忧愁，是因你们从忧愁中生出懊悔来。你们依着　神的意思忧愁，凡事就不至于因我们受亏损了。  (哥林多后书 7:9 和合本)

I now rejoice, not that you were grieved, but that you were grieved to repentance. For you were grieved in a godly way, that you might suffer loss by us in nothing.  (2 Corinthians 7:9 WEB)

我们绝对不可以把某个人看成是这个世上幸福的唯一来源,这会伤害到我们灵性与情感的自由与发展。

✔接受别人的界线 ，自己的界线才能得到尊重

所以，无论何事，你们愿意人怎样待你们，你们也要怎样待人，因为这就是律法和先知的道理。” (马太福音 7:12 和合本)

Therefore whatever you desire for men to do to you, you shall also do to them; for this is the law and the prophets. (Matthew 7:12 WEB)

✔界线与感激不容混淆

✔你拥有界线的主权