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What's a good relationship should be? I thought through it very clearly, and I had experienced a relationship which taught me to know the deep meaning of freedom——which is very important in a relationship.

From my opinion, a good relationship can help each other to become a person who is better than you were in the past. Not to become the person who you want him or her to be. The notion of freedom sounds like you can do everything you like without considering other’s feelings. Is that true? Of course not! A good relationship needs your respect and your love, the most important thing, to help the other one transcend all difficulties, all fears, all unhappiness, and so on. That’s a strong force which can help each other know how to build a lasting relationship, how to forgive the faults if your partner had made, and even teach yourself how to love.

So, whatever relationship you are in, love should always be the most important part, and should always been there. If there is one day your love changed, and you treat your partner without it, you want to control him or her, you want to change him or her, you want to prove you are a better one who is even better than him or her in everywhere, and you insist in thinking it’s a right way to prove his or her love to you. You begin to test this relationship. It’s the day it begin to be destroyed. And maybe it’s the day you begin to become a person you hated mostly in the past. Of course your partner will be upset with you either. That’s because you hurt him or her at first. You made the two souls not free any more. So there is no meaning to be together again, and if you insist in staying with him or her and don’t change, it will hurt each other more seriously. There is also exist another reason, it’s that you believe you were the best cultivator who has payed more patience, time, and love in this relationship. But you don’t know the truth that everyone’s feelings are different, maybe he or she has tried the best to satisfy you, but you think it’s not enough, you want more. So greedy are you !

So, if you want a lasting relationship, you should control yourself. Why are you so paranoid about your partner? Why not always kind-hearted, and why not alway show your love with the person who was so closed to you. It is likely we used to show our better self with the people who were unfamiliar and show our worse self with our partner. Maybe that’s the humanity which can always let you insatiable. The humanity starts you off on looking for desires including the desire of control others. But desires are endless, how can it be stopped！ Maybe when your relationship has broke up totally, it’s the time to tell you what the regret should be. And then you will always stay with the desperation which made you very sad.

And it’s true that everyone has it’s individualism, we can’t aware what’s the truth would be! We just like to do everything through our own mind. The most horrific thing in the world is that we believe we have got the whole messages, we think to some extent, we are absolutely right. So we find the reasons which let us hurt others so naturally. That’s even caused the War and the Cultural Revolution. Trust it, maybe you are really a wretch you just don’t believe.

So, if you want to get a lasting relationship in which your two souls could always get the freedom, you should keep doing introspection. And maybe you should believe the God who can give you the power to let you keep away from the wicked things. To be a better self, you should striving for it.