To My Daughter:Happiness Is Wher

Dear daughter,

My sweetheart, l feel so sorry from the bottom of my heart. l have to admit that over the past two weeks, l played a very harsh mom, breaking your dream ,dragging you out of the bed, dressing you very forcedly ,turning a deaf ear to your crying and screaming. What was worse, l was talking various lies to you, like “we will go to the amusement park”, “we will go to the shopping mall” or” let’s  go to beach” to stop you crying .To my guilt, my poor baby, you chose to believe me every time even though every time  l made you  disappointed.

亲爱的女儿：妈妈的 小甜心，妈妈从内心深处表示很抱歉。必须承认，在过去的两周，妈妈摇身一变成了最苛刻的妈妈。每天早上，打破你的睡梦，拖你离开床，非常强硬的为你换衣梳洗，对你的哭闹尖叫充耳不闻。更糟糕的是，妈妈成了一个大骗子，为了让你停止哭闹，撒谎我们要去游乐场，我们要去商场，或者我们要去沙滩玩等等。可怜的孩子，尽管每次都会让你失望，但是每一次你都选择相信妈妈。

One morning, you cried to beg mommy if l could help to ask for leave. l said no, then you were  fighting, shouting, struggling ,full of desperation. Dear Lucy, you can be absent today ,you also can be absent tomorrow ,but you can’t be absent forever, worse still, all the difficulties can’t be absent from you. This is life; you have no chance of escape.

有一天早上，你哭着乞求我能否帮你请假，我说不能，然后你反抗，挣扎，声嘶力竭，眼里充满绝望。亲爱的孩子，今天你可以缺席，明天你也可以缺席，但是你不可能永远缺席，因为困难本身不会从你的生命里缺席。只要活着，就不可能逃避。

To be perfectly honest, I, the person that you love best in this world, have treated you so harshly for the first time in your life. However, it doesn’t matter. Bette Davis said that if you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent. As a responsible parent, I want to tell you that making you cry is not my intention; my real intention is to let you overcome your difficulties and accept your kindergarten life.

非常坦率的讲，我，这个世界上你最爱的人，在你有生以来第一次这么苛刻的对你，然而，没关系，妈妈问心无愧，就像美国著名女演员Bette Davis 所言：”如果你从未被你的孩子怨恨过，就当你从未做过父母吧“。我想告诉你的是，让你这么难过并不是我的本意，我的本意是想让你克服困难，接纳你的幼儿园生活。

Yes, your kindergarten life, it’s not mine, not daddy’s, not our families’; it is only yours, which means you have to handle this big challenge by yourself.

是的，你的幼儿园生活，不是妈妈的，也不是爸爸的，不是家里任何一个其他人的，仅仅只是你的，这就意味着你必须要独自一人去面对它。

Don’t fear the kindergarten.

不要畏惧幼儿园。

Kindergarten is the first place where you leave home for your life journey. You, as an individual, start learning basic life skills there .You will get how to feed  yourself, dress yourself, go to the public toilets by yourself, make friends by yourself, handle relationships by yourself and deal with your emotions by yourself. Please be clear one thing, you are just one of many children in  teachers eyes, not the apple of your parents' eyes. That is to say, when you have some problems or difficulties, try you best to solve them at first, instead of turning teachers for help.

幼儿园是你离开家庭，走向人生旅程的第一站。你，作为一个独立的个体，在这里开始学习最基本的生活能力。你将学着自己吃饭，自己穿衣，自己上厕所，自己交朋友，自己处理和伙伴的关系，自己处理坏情绪。有一点要请你明白，你只是老师眼里众多孩子中的一员，而不是父母眼里一贯的中心。换句话说，当你遇到麻烦的时候，请先自己尽力解决，而不是第一时间就去找老师。

Kindergarten is the pure place where both teachers and kids are very kind and compassionate. Over the past two weeks, you got so much help from your teachers and classmates .Keep in mind ,however,don’t take their helps for granted, you should be grateful to the teachers who wipe your bottom, the girls who wipe away your tears or button up your overcoat, because there are the first people caring for you other than your families.

幼儿园是露骨的生命之初，是一举一动都表达至纯至真的地方。这里的老师和孩子们充满善良和友爱。在过去的两周，你得到了各种各样来自老师和同学的帮助。不过请记住，千万不要把不请自来的帮助当作理所应当，你应该感激那些为你便后擦屁屁的老师，感激那些你哭时为你拭去泪水，你冷时帮你系上扣子的同学，因为他们是继你的家人后第一批关心你的人。

Kindergarten is also the place where you may meet the teacher who will impact you forever, or gain the first-best friendship forever. So please embrace your kindergarten life,  feel free to make friends,  perform yourself, enjoy yourself every day. I'm convinced that you will be very emotionally attached to this place the day when you say goodbye to it.

幼儿园也是你结交良师益友的地方，在这里你或许会遇到影响你一生的老师，或许会收获伴随你一生的友谊。所以，拥抱你的幼儿园生活吧！尽情的展示你自己吧！大胆地去交朋友吧！快快乐乐地度过每一天吧！妈妈坚信，当你向它挥手道别的那一天，你一定会对它充满眷恋！

Last night, you looked very tired but didn’t go to bed. I asked why, you said tomorrow would come if you slept. I know you fear tomorrow, but Lucy, you know, tomorrow will definitely come no matter if you sleep or not; the kindergarten is there for you no matter if you like or dislike; the challenges come without negotiations no matter if you are ready or not. You are doomed to grow up; No one can stop life rushing forward.

昨天晚上，看你已经很困了但却硬撑着不肯睡去，我问为什么，你说，如果你睡着了，天就亮了。我知道你害怕天亮了上幼儿园，可是孩子，你知道吗？不管你睡还是不睡，明天都会到来；  不管你喜欢幼儿园还是不喜欢幼儿园，幼儿园都会在那里等着你；不管你愿，还是不愿，你终究要长大成人。生活奔涌向前的狂澜，谁都难以力挽。

The only thing we can do is that don't miss the past; don’t fear the future, either.

我们唯一能做的，就是，不念过去，不畏明天。

By the way, you know what, the flower we bought yesterday was blooming this morning. It is so unexpected, isn’t? So please don’t fear tomorrow, because tomorrow often come with surprise and good luck.

顺便告诉你个好消息，昨天晚上我们一起买的百合，今天上午竟然展开了花瓣，快的不可思议，不是吗？想想刚买到时还是一个紧紧的花骨朵儿呢，所以，孩子，不要害怕明天，明天来时往往会带着惊喜和好运气。

May you have a beautiful kindergarten life!God bless you!

yours，mommy

愿你有个愉快美好的幼儿园生活！愿上帝保佑你！

妈咪致上

     

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