我们对生活失去了控制的时刻

              The First Point of Life

Mr. Paulo Coelho wrote in his book "the Alchemist ", At a certain point in our lives, we loose control of what's happening to us,and our lives become controlled by fate. That's the world's greatest lie.

Recently I figured out that it's very easy to lose control of life. When the Children grow old enough, they have to learn many things for living . One of my friends told me that her younger sister's daughter, a student in grade 6, had six other lessons after school.  If this occurred ten years ago, I would thought it was crazy. But now, I have become apathetic. I was astonished after counting with my fingers the related number of my little son's task. It is seven. My little son is in grade 5. You can't imagine this is very common among his classmates.

City Children have to face these pressure. They lose control of what's happening to them. Under the name of love,their lives are arranged by the worried and greedy adults. We load too much on their weak backs. Day by day, they're limited imperceptibly. After constantly training, they are capable of obtaining some skills and gaining some honour. 

I don't know what to say about it, because I feel guilty and fidgeted for leading him to learn so many. Is he treated as an acrobats who plays almost ten balls at one time ? or the animal performers in the zoo? His heart is  tired and he has less time to yearn,or to fulfill his personal legend.

I seldom would rather stop this silly game. When i want to unload some , other traditions persuade me not give up so easily. The child will obtain  more persistence and courage after overcoming the difficulties. So I am confused. On the other hand, he really performance well and has the Interest on each subject.

Actually we should not fear of the unknown when we're capable of achieving what we need and want. Our life stories and the history of the world were written by the same hand. We need not learn too much since we haven't enough time. Our only obligation on this world is to realize our personal legend.

So I realized it's  the first point that my son lost  control of his life. The less is the more. I think I have sensed something. I am ready to change.

生命中的第一个节点

保罗奎艾略在他的《the Alchemist 》书中写到，在我们生命的确定时刻，我们失去了对生活的控制，我们的生命被命运所左右。这就是世界上最大的谎言。

近来我发现我们的生活很容易失去控制。当孩子们长到足够大时，他们开始不得不学习一些生存技能。我的一个朋友告诉我说，她妹妹的女儿，一个小学六年级的学生，有六个兴趣班。这要是发生在十年前，我一定认为这是疯狂的举动。但是现在，我已经很淡然了。当我扳着手指头数数我小儿子的兴趣班时，我被惊到了。他的兴趣班有七个，他小学五年级。你想像不到，这种现象在他同学中很普遍。

城市的孩子不得不面临这样的压力。他们对发生在自己身上的事情失去了控制。借以爱的名义，他们的生活被焦虑而又贪心的父母所安排。他们瘦弱的肩膀上承受了太多压力。渐渐地，他们的生活不知不觉中被限制住。经过持续的培训，他们会获得一些技能与一定的荣誉。

但我却不知该说什么才好，我为让孩子学习这么多东西而感到内疚与不安。他是否被当成了手上同时玩十个球（学校的语数英科，加上外面的六七个兴趣班）的杂耍艺人？还是被训练成了动物园中表演的动物？他的心太累了，很少有时间去渴求并实现自己的天赋。

我也极少愿意停下这看似愚蠢的游戏。当我想卸下一些负担时，传统观念就会劝说我，不要这么轻易放弃。经过克服重重困难，孩子会变得更加有意志力与勇气。于是，我不知如何是好。另外，他确实对每个课都保有兴趣并且还学得不错。

事实上，当我们有能力获得我们想要的，我们就不应该对未知充满恐惧。我们的生命与世界的历史是由同一只手所写就。我们不必学得太多，因为我们也没那么多时间。我们在世上的唯一使命，就是实现我们的个人天命。

所以，我意识到我的儿子正处于对生活失去控制的时刻。少就是多，我想我已经感受到了，并准备好做出改变。