如何养成习惯性自律？

我觉得施瓦辛格的演讲视频，可以很好的解答这个问题。

这是一场场播放量超过1亿，2019年最具传播力的励志演讲。

施瓦辛格是一个成功的健美运动员、商人、演员、政客。如果不是对他比较了解的人，你可能只知道他是成功的演员，是州长。但是你很难了解到:他就是一个习惯性自律的人，并且绝对算是成功人士。他的方法是可以学习的，如果你看过他的自传，那么对你理解他这个视频更有帮助

（视频以及原文内容在下方）

首先你要有一个目标

这个目标可以很远大，也可以比较小。这不是别人逼得，是你自己确实想要的，想要达到的位置，想要获得的成就，发自内心，没有外界的干扰。

施瓦辛格曾经也有过多个目标:成为欧洲先生；成为宇宙先生；当上好莱坞最受欢迎的演员；成为加州州长等等

有目标是一切的开始，是你奋斗的动力源泉

然后你得付出行动

很多鸡汤的通病是:只告诉你要努力，不告诉你该怎样努力

施瓦辛格告诉你:

要规划好自己的时间

保持“饥饿”（渴望）

不要惧怕失败

不要有 plan B等等

有了目标就有了方向和动力，有了方法就事半功倍

有了目标和方法，何愁不能自律呢？

施瓦辛格震撼演讲

I went to college, I went and worked out five hours a day. And I was working on construction, because in those days in body-building, there was no money. I didn’t have the money for food supplements or anything. So I had to go to work. So I worked in construction, I went to college and worked out in the gym. And at night from 8 o’clock at night to 12 midnight. I went to acting class four times a week. I did all that. There was not one single minute that I wasted. And this is why I standing here today.

在大学里，我每天训练五个小时。同 时还在工地里干活，因为那时候做健美的根本没有钱。我没有钱去买食物或其它别的东西，我不得不去工作。我在工地里干活，去大学的健身房健身，从晚上八点一直到午夜十二点，每周还去上四次表演课。我做了所有的这些事情，没有浪费任何一分钟，这就是我今天能够站在这里的原因。

With the age of 20 I went to London, and I won the Mr. Universe Contest as the youngest Mr. Universe ever and it was because I had a goal. You see, if you don't have a vision of where you go, and if you don't have a goal where you go, you drift around and you never end up anywhere.

20岁的时候我去了伦敦,赢了宇宙先生的比赛，成为史上最年轻的宇宙先生。这是因为我一直有这样一个目标。如果你对于自己要去向哪没有任何想法，不知道自己的目标是什么，你将四处漂泊没有终日。

74% of people hate their job in America. The majority of people don't like what they're doing, because they're not doing it, because they didn't have a goal and then followed this goal. They're just aimlessly drift around and there's a job opening, so they get their job because they need to work. But then when you work, it's a chore. It's work. It's not fun. So if you think about it, only a quarter of people really enjoy what they're doing in life.

74%的美国人讨厌他们的工作，大多数人并不喜欢他们正在做的事。因为他们根本不是真正地在“做”，因为他们没有目标也没有努力朝着它奋斗，他们只是毫无目的地漂泊。遇到一份现成的工作时，他们就拿到了一份工作仅仅是出于需要。但真的开始做时却发现它只是乏味琐事，只是工作，毫无趣味。所以你想想看，只有四分之一的人真正在生活中享受他们的工作啊。

SoI couldn't wait to do another 500 pound squat; I couldn't wait to do another 500 pound bench press; I couldn't wait to do another 2,000 sit-ups; I couldn't wait for the next exercise. So let me tell you something. Visualizing your goal and going after it makes it fun. You got to have a purpose no matter what you do in life, you got to have the purpose.

所以我等不及想做下一次500磅的深蹲，我等不及想做下一次500磅的卧推，我等不及想做下一次2000个仰卧起坐，我等不及想开始下一次训练。所以我告诉你，设想你的目标并且追寻它真的很有趣，你需要一个目标，无论你在生活中做什么，你必须要有一个目标。

I hate Plan B, because we have so many doubters. We have so many of those people that say “no” and “you can't do it” “it's impossible”. But when you start doubting yourself, that's very dangerous, Because now what you're basically saying is that if my plan doesn't work, I have a fallback plan, I have a plan B. And that means you’re start thinking about Plan B. Every thought that you put into Plan B, you're taking away that thought and that energy from plan A.And the reason one of the main reasons why people want to have a plan B is becausethey are worried about failing. What if I fail then I don't have anything else? well, let me tell you something. Don't be afraid of failing, because there's nothing wrong with failing, You have to fail in order to climb that ladder. There's no one that doesn't fail.

人们想要备选计划的主要原因之一在于因为他们害怕失败。万一我失败了一无所有怎么办？那么，让我告诉你，不要害怕失败，因为失败没有错。你必须失败才能开始攀登成功的阶梯，没有人不失败。

Michael Jordan said in one of his interviews when they said “you're unbelievable”“you the greatest basketball player of all times, and he says “well, you just mentioned the successes”,but he says “For me, to become the greatest basketball player, I missed 9,000 shots when I was playing basketball the NBA games.” So, during this games that he was so successful, he missed 9000 shots. Does it make him a failure? No. He is one of the greatest basketball player of all times, but he failed 9,000 times! Do you get it? We all fail! It's okay.

迈克尔乔丹在一次采访中，听到自己被誉为“不可思议的”“有史以来最伟大的篮球运动员”时他说：“你只提到了成功”。他接着说“对我来说，成为最伟大的球员之前我在NBA球场上投丢了9000次。”所以，在这些属于他的如此成功的球赛里，他投丢了9000次。这让他失败了吗？不。他是有史以来最伟大的球员之一，但他失败了9000次。你明白了吗？我们都会失败！没关系。

What is another case is when you fail you stay down, whoever stays down is a loser. Winners will fail and get up, fail and get up, fail and get up. You always get up, that is a winner.

另一种情况是当你失败沉沦的时候，如果一直沉沦下去，你就是一个失败者。成功的人会失败但也会重新站起来，失败再站起来，失败再站起来。你一定会站起来，这才是成功的人。

I lost body-building competitions; I lost powerlifting competitions; I lost weightlifting competitions; I had movies that went in the toilet and that were terrible and got the worst reviews. We all lose! We all have loses! This is okay. And this is why I say don't be worried about losing, because when you're afraid of losing, then you get frozen, you get stiff you're not relaxed. In order to perform well in anything, if it's in boxing or if it is onyour job or with your thinking, It is only happening when you relax.

我输掉了健美比赛；我输了力量举重比赛；我输了杠铃举重比赛；我有过失败的电影，真的很糟糕，得到了最差的评价。我们都会失败，我们都有很多失败的经历。没关系，这就是为什么我说不要害怕失败。因为你害怕失败的时候，你就会畏缩不前，身体变得僵硬，无法放松。为了表现得很好，不论是在拳击或是你的工作，或是在思考，成功只会发生在你放松的时候。

So, relax. It's okay to fail. let's just go all out and give it everything that you got!. That's what it is all about, So, don't be afraid to fail!

所以，放松去做吧。失败也没关系，让我们全力以赴，拼尽全力。这就是成功的真谛。不要害怕失败！