Attitude to mistakes

This passage is written for my dear grandmother.

I have taken care of my grandmother in the hospital for three days. Because there is no choice here. My uncle and my father are living in my hometown. My grandmother also is. I have seen her feeling uncomfortable for several months . So I have decided to take her to accept treatment when I backed home during dragon boat festival holiday.So I have to take care of her 24 hours a day because my parents have disagreed with my decision  that it's a little far from home compared to community hospital.But it seems she looks good without pain and suffering.

Next to her is a 100 year old grandmother.  Her daughter who cares her with whole heart. Actually it's not good to take over sufficient care as her only left function will become disabled gradually. Her son in law was died in an accident two years ago.So her daughter has told me that she has regretted that she hasn't cherished the relationship with her husband. Her husband took her to travel before leaving her. She sometimes has quarreled with him. But she hasn't had opportunity to make up.

I have felt quite down.I have been accompanying my grandmother for three days . We were sleeping in the same bed. She always looks forward to living a life with me.  She depends on me a lot.But I have my work.It's not convenient to live with me. I also hope we can live together .So I have decided to travel to my hometown and do some cleaning for her regularly.I hope she can be free from suffering in the future with my wish and love.

It's not enough to finish my passage with 1000 words so far.I will write some of my opinions about mistakes in the following.

At some point in your life, you will be wrong. Because everyone is not perfect in this world. Mistakes are not inevitable. Making mistakes is not a bad thing but making a mistake repeatedly is exactly bad. This society is like an university we should grow up in it. We can learn from mistakes  both from others and ourselves.

However , firstly , it's hard to admit when you are wrong. Why, you are not willing to face what you did it's wrong. Secondly, maybe  you cope by justifying your mistake without making an apology. Because it can feel comfortable  to stick to our guns. Lastly, admitting mistakes is equal to make an apology.

Feeling comfortable is an short term benefit, but there are long term consequences. For example,  you have refused to apologize when you are in the wrong at work. It could potentially lead to a conflict or retaliation with your coworkers. You will take price of it.

When You cling to old ways of doing things even new ways are better and smarter. Because trying a new thing that makes you  to lead more mistakes . You are afraid to change. Therefore, more things you have tried, more mistakes you have made, much progress you will improve through this process.

Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. We have taken many price for this lesson.  What we learn from it that can avoid same mistakes when it happens in the next time. For example, in the condition of my work,  we will make mistakes if we are not sensitive to the unstable conditions of our patients . We will feel frustrated in our work. For another example, we will make mistakes when we don't think deeply. These ideas are from the book which is named beyond feelings. On the one hand,We should judge ideas responsibly. It's not appropriate to make a good decision in advance without critical thinking . Then after that you would practice or experience it to identify whether your decision is right or wrong. You should think critically to analyze it throughly at the first step. You should offer evidence to support your opinions. I actually did it in the former way.  On the other hand, seeing is believing. We always hear from the others without doubting. Did you ever play the game telephone? It begins when one person writes down a message but doesn't show it to anyone. Then the person whispers it, word for word, to another person. That person, in turn, whispers it to stil another, and so on, through all the people playing the game. The last person writes down the message word for word as he or she hears it. Then the two written statements are compared. Typically, the original message has changed, often dramatically, in passing from person to person. Whether you believe it or not, you can play it to witness. Don't trust something which you don't see or  not already know.

All in all, since you have made mistakes like me before, how do you exactly change your behavior and learn to embrace your mistakes? Firstly, we should admit our mistakes.  If you made mistakes you don't feel frustrated. It's not common and natural.We should face our problems but not feel double down. Secondly, we should make apologies to admit our mistakes even though you will feel frustrated.It would  help you soften the problem and it reminds you to maintain a good relationship with people like your colleagues without conflicts and retaliation. Thirdly, we should collect other people's opinions like in the way of brain storm because our mind is limited to make multiple analysis. We should go out to talk with different people to exchange ideas. Fourthly,  we don't be afraid to make mistakes when you want to try a new thing.More mistakes, more  progress. Lastly,we should try to walk with good and excellent people, you can be influenced by them positively, it can help you to avoid mistakes in some way. For example, if you walk with people who have a good temper you will be similar person too. Because it's hard to control your temper when you are irritated by others.

I hope you can give me some comments about how do you see the mistakes.