2020-07-19

谭老师昨晚过来找我啦，今天中午离开的。

Mr.Tan came here to meet me last night and he left at the noon today.

他把他妈妈送到了他弟弟那里，所以他有空过来我这里了

Before that he sent his mother to his brother's house,so that he has free time to meet me

他骗他妈妈说他直接回家，其实并不是，而是来了我这里陪我

He told a lie to his mother said that he would go home soon,but as we know,he came to me

我还是很快开心的，毕竟我们已经连续三周没见过面了

I am so delighted to hear this because we have no meeting about three weeks

虽然离开得很匆忙，但是离开前他买水果时顺带给我也买了一袋李子

Although he left in a hurry, he bought me a bag of plums when he bought fruits

希望这李子可以甜到下次他过来找我

I hope these plums can hold the sweet before next meeting

本来想着他放暑假的时候，我请几天年假一起过去海南玩的

We have made a plan vilsiting Hainan this summer holiday,which I will reply few day-off from my company.

但是因为他妈妈得突然到来以及他计划带他从未出去过的妈妈去北京旅游

But his mother's present interupt our plan  and he told me he want to take his mother who never went out to Beijing for a trip on summer holiday 

所以我们得海南旅游计划估计要推迟了，而且有可能无限期，毕竟下次我和他能有同样的空余时间应该很少了

So we have to postpone the Hainan tourism plan, and it may be indefinite. After all, I think it is hard to have the same spare time with him in the next time.

其实从他照顾和陪他妈妈可以看出，他是一个无法扔掉家庭或者在他家人面前做出背叛家庭的事情的人

In fact,it is obvious that he is a man who can not drop his family or do something to betray his family ,we can find some sample from his behavior about taking care of his mother

这也正是我所担心的，因为他计划今年和形婚对象要一个小孩

And this is what I really worry,becaus he told me he wanna a kid this year with his fake wife

虽然我极力反对形婚里有小孩的事，毕竟这是一个生命，一个完整的人

No matter how strongly I oppose to this thing about having a children who totally has his life and is a whole person in a fake marriage

这样对这个生命和人是不公平的

That is unfair to this child or life

但是我给他说，他却认为小孩生下来是一张白纸，只要你教他，妈妈并没有那么重要，他就不会怎样

We have talked about this before,but he still hold his point the child who born in the world is a piece of white and blank paper,as long as you teach him, the mother is not so important, he will not care about it so much

我没有回答他，虽然我觉得并没有那么简单，社会环境、家庭环境以及身边人的的影响，未来肯定会对这个小孩带来很多伤害

I did not answer him after he told his thought because on my opinion,it is complecated to a kid's future which may brings a lot of hurt to him from such a complecated social 、family environment or the people will around him

我知道我无法劝阻他，因为这就是他要走的路，他也决定了，我选择妥协

I konw I can not stop him because this is the way he choose,what I can to do is following him and support him

哪怕以后有一天他会抛弃我，只为了所谓的正常生活

Even if one day he will abandon me, just for the so-called normal life