Tinder Date Memo

Date：2018年3月10日 星期六 Los Angeles - Rain

Tinder is an application for hooking up. I swiped right few men and talked with them on Tinder. Now I cancelled my account and delete it forever.

After missed three men, one fat Asian man looked like Han in Broken Sister but a pre-doctor, two hooking-up only guys who are dirty, I made an appointment with a Chinese man called Aaron. The bio pics looked like a rich and interesting guy. We met on Saturday night.

Today was raining. It is not a typical Los Angeles style weather. The bad weather seemed indicating the bad date. I was late because I prepared too much. I curled my hair, took on my make-up, wear half transparent tights, and drove far from where I lived in San Gabriel to West Hollywood. I am excited and looked for a well-done man who would be kind and interesting, However, the first time I saw him, I knew tonight would be a bad date. He is too short, a typical Chinese IT guy.

I drove a car. He did not have a car. I usually don’t have too many prejudices. But this one is really disgusting. He was kind of stupid. I do not understand why he required me parked on street 8 blocks away from the destination restaurant and walked together in rain. When I swiped my card on Parking Meter. He did not even give me any help such as an umbrella. There was an umbrella there in my car. But I did not take it out at first because I thought giving him a chance to open an umbrella for me and we would get closer. I was totally wrong. He did not show any attention on me, a girl standing in rain. When we got into the restaurant, he walked into the restaurant first and did not even look back at me, much less for pulling the door for me. I had to admit that I was spoiled by my friends in Daytona Beach. They are so gentle that I’ve forgotten that not every boy/man will do that for a girl.

After finishing a dinner plate and he required split the bill, we walked back to my car and I left. I thought a lot from this date.

One, Tinder is not a reliable way to find a good man. I should get into a normal life style that I want and do things that I really like and have passion on. The man who I meet him in my life style and activities would at least have similar attitude and style as me. 在自己喜爱并向前奋斗的生活路上前进时认识到的人，才是有可能合适自己的人。不要为了企图寻找一个‘合适的人’，而进入旁门左道怪异歧途。即便当时觉得有趣合适，但是时间长了要么就是你还想回到原来的路上，要么就是你会被耽误，从而过上错误无趣，甚至是让自己后悔的人生。

Two, the life I want is self-disciplined, rich, loyal, worthy, and family-oriented. Absolutely not the stupid, poor, lazy, disgusting, or shaking the loose leg(放荡的生活). For the sake of dreaming life, I have to prepare as early as possible, and be strict to myself as much as I could. Find my husband in my world is so important. For purpose of living such a life, I need to retrieve my body shape, do more exercises, eat less but cook well, be responsible for my job, work hard for my life, keep good relationship with friends around me.

Third, looking for a husband places on my agenda from now on. Know which kind of man I want and what are behaviors that I could not endure or take. Thinking about this disgusting date, if you do not find and marry the man you like and want, and be good to you, you will lose the advantage of age, background, and EQ. At then, you will have to take the blind date and meet men who you do not know how disgusting he is or was. It is terrible.

Fourth, improving my English spoken English and extend knowledge in English contents. I read and knew too much interesting stuffs in Chinese. But if I want to get to know some interesting people in America, I need to have same topics to talk with them in English. Even they are Asian, we must speak English somehow.

Fifth, doing some girly things to attract man and behaving like a ‘Green Tea Bitch’. Read more books about relationships, such as’wikihow - how to prepare for the first date’. Such as ‘Gone Girl’ (shocked me on concept of love), ‘失恋ショコラティエ’ (失恋巧克力职人), ‘Yun Wang’. Know more about how man thinks. Do not put your heart and emotion before any real physical interactions. Do not think too much but not do anything.

Although the date failed. I still messaged Aaron when I arrived at home and thanked him. It’s my attitude and upbringing (家教、教养) no matter how disgusting my date mate was. Second, the disgusting date taught me a lesson that I should work hard for my dreaming life style and family members, not focus on hooking up with strangers who’s not in my life. Third, reminded how nice memories and experience that I had with my friends.