TED||二十岁光阴不再来
首先：忘掉身份认同，获得一些身份资本。 去做一些可以增加自身价值的事。对你以后想成为什么样的人，去做一些投资。
First, forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.that adds value to who you are. Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next.
身份资本会成为身份的资本。
Identity capital begets identity capital.
那不是探索，那是拖延。
Which, by the way, is not exploration. That's Procrastion.
开始工作，并使它有意义。
Explore work and make it count.
第二，不要坐井观天。
Second,The urban tribe is overrated.
最好的朋友是可以载你去一程机场， Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport.
但是20多岁得人如果只和想法相同的同龄人交往，限制了他们的交际圈、他们所知、所想、所讲和他们的工作地点。 新的资本，新的恋爱对象几乎都是来自圈子外的。
but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know,
what they know,how they think, how they speak,and where they work. That new piece of capital,that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.
新事物来自于我们所谓的弱关系，我们朋友的朋友。
New things come from what are called our weak ties,our friends of friends of friends.
经营婚姻的最好时期，是在你结婚前，这就意味着选择爱情要想选择工作一样积极。
The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one,and that means being as intentional with love as you like with work.
选择你的家人就是要理智地选择你想要和谁过什么样的生活，而不是为了应付或者消磨时间才和一个正好选了你的人在一起。
Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.
30岁不是一个新的20岁，所以认清你的成年期，获得一些身份资本，利用你的不那么直接的关系，选择你的家人。
Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood,get some identity capital,use your weak ties,pick your family.
不要被你不知道的或是没有做过的事所限制。
生活的决定权在你。
Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.
You're deciding your life right now.
【TED】MegJay20岁光阴不再来-高清观看-腾讯视频
2015.08.29
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