关系处理不好，教你这9点技巧来搞定
我们每个人都处在关系中，有时候开心，有时候困扰，有时候迷惑。关系的健康与否决定了每个人是不是有一个良好的状态和幸福的生活。
Each of us involves in relationships, sometimes we are happy,sometimes we are troubled, sometimes we are confused.The health of relationship determines our state of mind and happiness.
如何拥有健康的关系，今天这里我们建议每个人要努力做到以下几点：
How to have a healthy relationship, today we recommend you do as following:
1 知道自己是谁，不害怕表达Knowing who you are and being unafraid to express it
不接纳现实的自己会造成很多困扰，如实的接纳自己，如实的接纳现实才能拥有良好的心态，并做出积极的改变和提升。
If you do not accept the reality will have a lot of trouble, please truthfully accept them, truthfully accept the reality will have a good attitude, and make positive changes and improvement.
2 知道你要的是什么，不害怕去追求Knowing what you want and being unafraid to pursue it
不怀疑你想要的，勇敢去追求，才能实现梦想。如果不知道自己想要什么和不确定目标会造成拖延和导致失败。
Do not doubt what you want,be brave to pursue them, so to achieve your dream. If you do not know what you want and uncertain the goals will make delays and failures.
3 拒绝参与任何种类的八卦Refusing to engage in gossip of any kind
八卦容易让周围关系陷入混乱，言多必失，说得越多造成的多角关系让自己脱不开身。
Gossip will make relationship surrounding into chaos,talks too much may have a slip of the tongue,and will make you in multi-angle relationships that can not get away.
4 反对背后说别人坏话，或者说一些否定别人的话Refusing to engage in negative talk about others
消息的传递都不是百分之百准确的，不同人有不同版本，背后说人坏话造成的影响损人又不利己。
The transmission of the message between people is not one hundred percent accurate, different people have different versions,negative talks about others behind the back will be harm to both of yourself and others.
5 倾听，真的在倾听，在别人还在讲话时不要急于等着回答或提出回答Listening,really listening,not waiting to reply or formulating a reply while another is speaking.
耐心的倾听后给予回应才能达成双方真正有效的交流沟通，减少误解和不礼貌。
Patiently listening and responding in order to reach a true and effective communication between each other can reduce misunderstanding and being impolite.
6 常常与他人道歉并宽恕他人，要定期及时有效Keeping short accounts with others by apologizing and forgiving regularly and efficiently
不可拖延太久不原谅对方或闷在心里太久不沟通,冷战或互相埋怨而不及时沟通都会造成互相伤害。
It is not good to delay too long time to forgive or buried in heart without communicating, cold war or complain without timely communication will hurt each other.
7 感谢别人的善意观察和接受Thanking others for kindnesses observed and kindnesses received
经常怀有感恩之心，感谢我们拥有的东西，自己是幸运的，才能得到满足。
With a grateful heart, thanks to what you have, you are lucky,and you are satisfied.
8 为别人打开沟通大门（名副其实地），并愿意让别人获得对你的合理要求或建议Openging doors (literally and figuratively)for others and being willing for others to get the credit you could legitimately claim.
拒绝给别人沟通的机会，会将关系拉得越来越远，敞开沟通才能扫除不该有的障碍。
If you refuse to give others the opportunity to communicate,will pull the relationship far away, open in communication can remove the obstacles should not have.
9 让双方更为正确和胜利的方式衡量关系价值，不管是谁错了还是对了Valuing relationships over being right and over so called winning.
事和情分开处理，以正确方式做事，并处理好情绪。
Separate things and emotions, doing things in the right way, and dealing with your emotions.
希望我们都能处理好关系，你周围一切变得越来越好！
Hope that we can have good relationship, everything around you will be getting better and better!
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