学英语笔记52:如何在争论中获胜

我们在相互争吵中都有这样的情境——双方都认为是对的，谁也说服不了谁，最后也没有形成一个结论

We have all been in an argument that seems like it;s going nowhere .we believe that we are right.

they believe that they 're right,And no matter how much you talks to each other ,it just seems like you're

never going to come to a conclusion.

坚持以下5个原则，能让我们在争论中卓有成效。

If you don't understand these five things,it will be very difficult to have a prductive argument .

So let's have a quick review of the 5 concepts.

第一：清晰地表达你想要的东西——,这样你的大脑会关注如何让谈话产生出成果。

One,clarify what you want .

When you clarify what you want ,it will allow your brain to be focused on that outcome.

第二：阐明你不想要的

Two:clarify what you don't want.

第三：表达一个中立性的声明——不要让她感到被冒犯或被论断。

Three ask an And question 

So I've had to learn how to be sure that the other person does not feel attacked when I am speaking my mind.

To make sure that the other person doesnotfeel attacked or judged for what he or she is doing .

第四：设定一个相对安全、不受打扰的谈话环境

Four ,establish a safe talking environment.

第五：达成建设性的共同小目标

And five ,establis a shared goal..

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