导师认证第2天 - 草稿
善于分享生活中的点滴,孩子自然就会习得。


打分表:让孩子自己打分,学会思考分析,一段时间后:哪天为何总是分数低,
允许有反复


学会感谢和鼓励:

人人都需要被感谢和鼓励


角色扮演: 六个人,一个逐渐长大的孩子,在妈妈专制式养育下,当他成人后,为何离幸福越来越远?

低自尊的形成原因:

暗示的重要: 双手合十,闭上眼睛,感觉你的左手食指在变长!
你的孩子长大后对自我的认知,完全来自你12岁之前对他的持续催眠。如:你很笨,很淘气,很马虎,长大后,ta就认为自己是这样的。
0~12岁,存款期,父母
12~18岁,取款期,朋友
18~24岁,更大的集体
幸福的人,一生都在 童年,
不幸的人一生都在寻找童年。
自信杯:

低自尊者长大后,没有接收别人的爱和机会的能力。




中性的标签要慎贴,如,懂事,是好的吗?
采访被夸懂事长大的孩子感受如何?
咒语,枷锁,不能做自己!
青春期没经历过,会后移。















摘掉负面标签:
其实妈妈觉得你是个很认真的孩子,例如……
多次鼓励

同样的指令,为何会有千奇百怪的结果?
沟通的复杂性,
在被问的情况下,发出同一指令,仍然是不同的结果。
沟通是双人舞!
要对孩子进行细致的方法步骤的指导!问:说明白了吗?
《小孩不笨》

孔子: 因材施教
同样是要去干一件事,让一个三思而后行,却让另一个赶紧去做。

言语追随: 把最后一句话进行重复
一个真实的测试

因为有爱,每句话要好好说!
人树房测试:
门,窗,烟囱,路:
4项都有,特外向
3项:外向
2项:内向
窗户多:善于观察,敏感
门把手:愿意敞开心扉
路上有石子: 对想走近你的人,设置障碍,如果石子带给别人是什么感觉,就意味着你带给别人什么!
树干:短粗,有能量,细长,心思细腻
树洞:创伤
树杈:目标
树干:不堵口,感性,堵口:固执,需要多听别人意见。
柳树:温柔的
果子:数量越多,想要的越多,落地了,得到了,正在落,正在实现。
树叶:落了,压力大,
树根:原生家庭影响
树冠外还有一个:外遇
鸟儿、蝴蝶:自由
耳朵:倾听,一大一小,选择性倾听
鼻子:主见
头发:渴望成长
脖子:没有,理智,有,感性理性连接得好,
胳膊腿:行动力
手掌:圆的,处世圆滑
手指尖:伤害他人
牙齿:
草:温柔
花: 温暖
小动物:陪伴




指责型:常会感到头疼

剁胡萝卜,刷马桶
先处理心情再处理事情,不在情绪中处理问题。

总是、老是、一直,以偏概全,不能说










如何设计课程?


































关键期:不可逆,狼孩,被遮住一只眼的猫
3岁前感官学习为主,感官教学为主
对身体形象的发展,3岁前不知道某个器官是身体不可缺少的一部分。
配对学习: 因为我四年级下半年落了课,所以从那时开始我就数学英语学习差了!
重新配对:四年级开始补



游戏:将手做成OK状,放在脸颊上,实际放在嘴巴下面
你做什么ta就在学什么
以身作则的视频




负向行为正向说,不要跑~慢慢走

惩罚孩子时你也是个孩子,那时是在跟孩子争输赢。赢了当下,输了未来。
要赢了孩子还是赢得孩子?
学会暂停
0分:有100%的进步空间,0分等于100分,考0分是很不容易的。
妈妈需要你一个抱抱。
演示并讨论:


用童年治愈一生
