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For Those Who Are Single

When did being single become some sort of disease that everyone wants to get rid of?

Why does everyone think that being in a relationship or married is superior to being alone?

Those are some questions you might want to think about.

Our culture places such an emphasis on being part of a couple that it makes single people feel like lepers sometimes.

But I want to challenge you to reframe being alone. It's all about your attitude.

If you're single and unhappy about it, here are some things I want to tell you to cheer you up:

对于那些单身的人

单身是什么时候成为一种人人都想摆脱的疾病的？

为什么每个人都认为恋爱或结婚比独处优越？

这些是你可能需要考虑的问题。

我们的文化如此强调成为夫妻的一部分，以至于有时单身人士会觉得自己像麻风病人。

但我想挑战你重新定义孤独。都是你的态度。

如果你单身，对此很不开心，我想告诉你一些事情，让你振作起来：

1. Things can change. And they will.

I don't care if you've been single for several decades or several days.

It can be easy to get down on yourself over the "odds" of finding that perfect partner.

Don't let yourself buy into the ridiculous myths, like "It's more likely to get abducted by an alien than it is to get married after 40."

Remember, anything and everything is possible. You just need to get out of your own way and start believing that.

1事情可以改变。他们会的。

我不在乎你是单身几十年还是几天。

在找到完美伴侣的“几率”上，你很容易对自己感到失望。

不要让自己相信那些荒谬的神话，比如“40岁以后被外星人绑架的可能性要比结婚的可能性大。”

记住，一切皆有可能。你只需要摆脱自己的方式，开始相信这一点。

2. Have high standards.

Don't just date someone because you don't want to be alone.

I can't tell you how many people I know who just "settle" because they hate being alone.

If that's you, why do you hate being alone so much? Don't you like yourself? You should!

You should love being alone, because you're such a cool person.

2有高标准。

不要因为不想一个人而和某人约会。

我不知道有多少人因为讨厌一个人而“安顿下来”。

如果是你，你为什么这么讨厌一个人？你不喜欢你自己吗？你应该的！

你应该喜欢独处，因为你是个很酷的人。

3. Use this time to learn about yourself.

Often, people use being with others as an escape — an escape from themselves.

If you're with others, then the focus is on them, not you. But how well do you really know yourself?

Being single is a precious time that can be used to really get to know and love yourself.

So spend the time getting to know you. Discover new things. Work on personal growth.

三。利用这段时间了解你自己。

通常，人们把和别人在一起当作一种逃避——逃避自己。

如果你和其他人在一起，那么重点是他们，而不是你。但你到底对自己了解多少？

单身是一段宝贵的时间，可以用来真正了解和爱自己。

所以花点时间去了解你。发现新事物。致力于个人成长。

4. Work on making yourself the kind of person you would want to date.

Don't look for someone to "complete you." If you need someone to complete you, then you aren't whole to begin with.

You want someone to think "Wow! This person is dating me?! I'm the luckiest guy/girl on the planet!" And the right person will.

4努力让自己成为你想约会的那种人。

不要寻找一个人来“完善你”。如果你需要一个人来完善你，那么你一开始就不完整。

你想让别人觉得“哇！这个人在和我约会？！“我是这个星球上最幸运的男人/女孩！”合适的人会的。

5. Learn to love your own company.

You're awesome! You're cool! If you don't believe me, then you are wrong. Everyone is perfect in their own way.

The problem is, many people — especially single people — don't believe it.

It's okay to spend a Saturday night alone with yourself and a movie and a glass of wine.

5学会热爱自己的公司。

你真棒！你很酷！如果你不相信我，那你就错了。每个人都有自己的完美。

问题是，很多人——尤其是单身人士——都不相信。

周六晚上独自一人，看一场电影，喝一杯酒是可以的。