真相！真相！！！
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BEAR IN MIND请铭记
• Facing the truth frees up energy and is the second stage, after defining purpose, in becoming more fully engaged.
在确定目标后，面对真相可以释放精力，也是全情投入的第二阶段
• Avoiding the truth consumes great effort and energy.
逃避真相消耗大量的精力
• At the most basic level, we deceive ourselves in order to protect our self-esteem.
在最基本的水平上，我们自我欺骗是为了保护自尊
• Some truths are too unbearable to be absorbed all at once. Emotions such as grief are best metabolized in waves.
有些真相是无法一次全然接受。情绪，例如悲伤需要分阶段接纳
• Truth without compassion is cruelty—to others and to ourselves.
没有怜悯的真相是残酷的，对人对己均如此
• What we fail to acknowledge about ourselves we often continue to act out unconsciously.
我们不愿承认的特性通常在无意识中表现出来
• A common form of self-deception is assuming that our view represents the truth, when it is really just a lens through which we choose to view the world.
自我欺骗的常见形式是假设我们的观点就是真相，其实这不过是我们用来解读世界主观方式而已。
• Facing the truth requires that we retain an ongoing openness to the possibility that we may not be seeing ourselves—or others—accurately.
直面真相需要我们对保持不断开放的心态，尤其是我们可能对自己或他人没有真实地看待
• It is both a danger and a delusion when we become too identified with any singular view of ourselves. We are all a blend of light and shadow, virtues and vices.
过度坚持自己的一面之词既是危险的也是幻觉。我们都是光和影、美和丑的有机体。
• Accepting our limitations reduces our defensiveness and increases the amount of positive energy available to us.
承认自身局限性能帮助我们降低自我防御，增强积极精力。
我的思考My Thinking
我对真相最初的理解是“残酷”，面对真相需要勇气。在原则中，Ray Dalio提到为了了解真相保持绝对的开放，这都是避免自己太片面而没法客观真实看待事情。在我看来讲理、讲真相是很伤人心的，尤其是跟亲近的人。不过今天有了方法，那就是在讲道理谈真相时要怀有怜悯之心！
My previous idea of truth is cruelty and truth requires courage. In Principles, Ray Dalio said we should be radically open to truth and avoid one's sigular view of things and look at things objectively. In my opinion, truth is mostly heatbreaking, esplecially among the close. Now I have udpated we can touch truth with compassion.
我现在跟别人交流基本上不谈对错。主要以下理由：
I will basically not judging when talking with others, considering:
1.对错是自己的主观判断，是用自己的标准来评判别人的言行。如何保证自己就是对的呢？还是依照的自己的标准啊，自己就是万能的上帝啊？
Right or wrong is a judgement which bases one's personal ciriteria. How can I be sure that I'm 100% right?
2.大部分人在即使自己真错的情况下，也会捍卫自己！这个连傻子也不例外。
Most people will defend themselves even if they are really wrong even he or she is an idot!
