Your Body Language Shapes Who Yo

So when I tell people about this, that our bodies change our minds and our minds can change our behavior, and our behavior can change our outcomes, they say to me,"It feels fake." Right? So I said, fake it till you make it. It's not me. I don't want to get there and then still feel like a fraud [frɔd]. I don't want to feel like an impostor [ɪm'pɑstɚ]. I don't want to get there only to feel like I'm not supposed to be here. And that really resonated ['rɛzə'net] with me, because I want to tell you a little story about being an impostor and feeling like I'm not supposed to be here.

When I was 19, I was in a really bad car accident. I was thrown out of a car, rolled several times. I was thrown from the car. And I woke up in a head injury ['ɪndʒəri] rehab ward [wɔrd], and I had been withdrawn [wɪð'drɔn] from college, and I learned that my I.Q. had dropped by two standard deviations ['divɪ'eʃən], which was very traumatic [traʊ'mætɪk]. I knew my I.Q. because I had identified [aɪ'dɛntɪfaɪ] with being smart, and I had been called gifted as a child. So I'm taken out of college, I keep trying to go back. They say, "You're not going to finish college. Just, you know, there are other things for you to do, but that's not going to work out for you." So I really struggled with this, and I have to say, having your identity [aɪ'dɛntəti] taken from you, your core identity, and for me it was being smart, having that taken from you,there's nothing that leaves you feeling more powerless than that. So I felt entirely powerless. I worked and worked, and I got lucky, and worked, and got lucky, and worked.