How public speaking changes myli

❤️IF YOU CAN NOT, YOU MUST.

1 Decide to change

Good evening. Dear friend. It's my great honor to be with you to share my story.  It's not a big deal, but real. Firstly,i'd like to say thank CAM and your club. It's you help me to start public speaking journey. Yes, about three years ago when I was pregnant, I keep on studying every weekend with you.

How time flies, then my story started after my baby was born.

PAIN-  Postpartum depression

Can I know how many of you are parents? If yes, please call one. If no, please call two.  I believe parents can understand parents. After my baby was born, I seemed like a spinning top,  turn around day by day, without rest.  At that time, I could not realize any value as a fulltime mom.  And I deeply doubted whether I could be responsible for the two lives.

Painful and stressful,gradually I realized I was in yumen  syndrome.  I can remember one night I curled myself in the corner of my room, with tears full of face, hopeless and helpless.  The more I keep asking myself what I should do now, the more depression came out.

2Toastmasters

I was lucky to meet Toastmasters. In the first meeting, I introduced myself. After that, there's an elegant and beautiful lady walked to me.

she said "Hey, Amy,  You did a very good job. Do you want to be the founder member of our new club?" Wow, I was encouraged and accepted. "I'd like to", I answered.

" Learning by doing.  Giving is in receiving. And do you want to be the VPPR of our new club?" She continued.

" VPPR?  What's that,I never heard about it before? Are you sure."  I doubt it.

"Yes, I'm sure I believe in you. believe in yourself."

" Okay, let me try I accept it happily."

Toastmasters is  a Non profit agency. Its Slogan is where leaders are made.  Where we can practice our the ability of our public speaking and leadership.  The people there was kind, helpful, generous and enthusiastic.

Giving is receiving，learning by doing.

3 How I practice pubic speaking

1) Grasp the Speaking role every week

2)  Competition

One competition equals to ten or more normal speaking.  Competition can force you to study to put out. I have the habit of procrastination and I grasp each competition to study.  I want to fully experience the contest to make friends to discover what my parents believe and to stretch myself in new and unexpected ways.

I want to try my best to influence others because we are community.

3) if you can not， you must

The only thing that not change is the change itself. We need to embrace the travel barrier and change.  The only thing we need to fear is fear itself.  The things are not so difficult, but our mind  is create a false  Phenomenon.  So if you cannot, you must. when you succeed, you won't think it's a big deal, and you will be more and more confident.

If you cannot, you must.

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预定观众15人，实到只有2-3位听众，虽然情境有些凄凉，但是我还是很开心，能赋能一个人都让我开心。会后还收到了小伙伴的鼓励赋能，超级开心。

从8月1号就开始考虑要讲什么主题，然后一直纠结痛苦，不知道要讲什么。思无益，不如学。想那么多，都是自己瞎想乱想，没有任何好的东西的输入，所以都是低效的，无用的。

8/27 今天共花费4.5h，梳理了自己2019-2021年的学习，制作了对比视频，变化真的很大，更自信了。

原本计划19:30开始，结果我19:30卡点才上去，结果发现自己的会议室找不着了，然后一顿盲人操作，7:40才开始分享，非常的被动，给人印象非常不好，没有时间观念，一定要做好准备。

［反思］

1 思无益，不如学。

2 准备工作一定要做足，打好提前量。准备工作做好了，现场更从容。

3  If you can not, you must.

4  If there is only one audience，you also can help him/her.

5 分享从我确定北极星目标开始。