#How to be an adult in relations

“The second and usually longest phase in  relationship  is conflict, as the light of romance is replaced it by the shadow of the tension. We do not know ourselves nor can we integrate our experience until we meet our own shadow and befriend with that by struggling with it. how can we know our partner  until we do the same with her? ”

热恋期之后的磨合期是最长的，把爱情必做传统英雄的旅程传奇，那么就必须经历 家-离家-回归 的经历，如果不愿意接受热恋期的离去，接受磨合期必有的挣扎，那么就无法迎接回归默契期的到来。

磨合期通常是感情里最最漫长的阶段，but it’s worthy.