2020-05-01 Don’t Be So Hard On Y
“Why am I not farther in life than now?”
In those moments, it’s easy to panic — especially if you look around you. It’s easy to look at others and compare your own path to theirs. But why are we so obsessed with timing?
- “This guy was a millionaire by 30.”
- “She had her first bestseller by 26.”
- “He became CEO at 40.”
Who cares? They are not you. But still, it stings, right? “Why not me?” you might think.
Everyone has their own path.
I know, that sounds corny. But you know what’s also corny? Being an unhappy person. Because that’s what happens when you try to control your future. Every time you feel that your life is not the way it SHOULD be, you’re trying to play God.
Give yourself a break and understand one thing: Your work matters.
Most of our unhappiness comes from believing that no one gives a fuck. It’s easy to feel irrelevant in a crowded world. You wake up, go to work, get back, and watch TV until you fall asleep. You’re just going through the motions.
Sometimes it takes a while to get where we want to be. But that doesn’t mean the journey is useless. And because we’re all so obsessed with outcomes, we think that life is measured in milestones.
But life is not only about achieving outcomes. That’s why we try to hack our way into living productive lives that matter. Some people believe that productivity is about cramming more into each day. It’s not. Productivity is about trying to find a way to enjoy your work and life. Often, that’s not the case. We hate our work and we hate our days.
But we try to justify that by dangling a lofty goal in front of our face. Everything will be all right in the end, as long as we achieve that goal, right? That degree, job, promotion, income, revenue, bestseller, or a big hit. But what if that doesn’t happen? Yeah, we feel behind.
OverWrite
It’s not about trusting the universe or God. It’s about trusting yourself. Because life doesn’t have to make sense. It just has to matter. And if you act like your life matters, it does.
