学英语笔记51:哭是不是男子汉

你有没有想哭的冲动的时候？但还是想忍住不哭？因为你心底在想我自己是不是男子汉？别人会怎么看我？

Have you ever felt the urge to cry but decided not to because you were afraid of what yo would think of yourself

or what other people would think of you ?

旁边的女孩听到后会怎么看我？她会不会不再认为我有男子汉气概？

What if a gril heard that you were crying ?Would she even think that you were a real man anymore?

这段视频我就为你拆解为什么要哭，以及为什么认为不哭控制住情绪才是男子汉的行为恰恰是脆弱的人

In this video ,I'm going to break down exactly why you should cry and why believe it's only the weak men who think it's

not masculine to cry and to hold back his emotions.

有些人用尽一生都不能从失恋中走出来

Some people go their whole lives still torn up about a bad breakup.

许多人不能理解的是，这种悲伤的情绪一定要从心底走出来，不然它会一直呆在你的心里

The thing that most people don't understand about emotions is that you need to take the necessary steps to get them

out of your body,but if your don't ,they will always stay inside of you .

释放这些负面的情绪有许多方法

Releasing these bad emotions can be done in a variety of ways.

你可以喊叫，你可以锻炼，你可以大笑，甚至去做爱。。

You can yell,you can workout ,you can even have sex.

其实最好有效的方法，就是——大多数男人都逃避的方法——哭，因为男人们都认为——这也太娘们了。

But the most effective way to release these emotions is the one most men stay away from which is crying 

and this is because men donot think it is masculine to cry.

一般人选择逃避，因为面对痛苦太难了，那似乎是一道无法过的坎

Option one :run away and hide from sad emotions because thinking about them is too difficult and he does not want to deal with them.

当然，还有一种方法，就是走入自己的内心，直面那段负面的情绪，让它无所逃遁。

Or option two:he looks inside of himself and faces his sad emotions head -on .He does not hide from them .

他不会为这些情绪所难为情，他知道这些情绪可能会让他痛哭，但他知道这事必须要作个了结，以继续生活，虽然面对它是多么的困难，虽然它深深地伤害了自己。

He is not embarrassed by them and he knows it will probably make him cry ,but he understands that in order to move on he has to deal with 

them even though it's really hard and it's going to really hurt him.

坚强的人坦然面对他们的恐惧和不安情绪; 脆弱人们逃避它。

Strong people confront their fears and emotions. Weak people run away from them .

这是你必须处理的情绪，因为如果你想前进并快乐，这是唯一的选择。

You have to deal with your emotions because that is the only option if you want to move forward and be happy.

因此，如果你也有这样的心结，走进你的房间，关上门，戴上耳机，听一段刻骨铭心的悲伤的歌，把这伤心的困扰你的事想透。

So if you have some sadness that is laying within you .Go to your room ,close the door ,put on some headphones ,and listen to some really 

sad music and think really deep and hard about that sad thing that has been kind of bothering you .

当你这样做了，你会感觉情绪在流淌，还有眼泪，不要试图控制，不要试图阻止

When you do this ,you will feel that emotion comes up and you could feel these tears come up but this time,donot fight it ,donot block it off.

去拥抱这段情感，去接受这行眼泪。

I want you to embrace the emotion and embrace the tears.

英文资料摘自：《每日英语听力》APP - 《男性自我提升小技巧》