How to get along with others?

In the interpersonal commutation, there is a common phenomenon that some persons are unsocial because of the different temperament. For example, an acute person cooperates with a sluggish person; a gentle man work with an indelicate person. Generally, their cooperation is very disadvantage to a team. However, in our daily lives, facing others with different temperament, how do we get along with them?

Frist, establishing the notion of equality of personality is essential. In my opinion, the gregariousness means that we need to communicate with someone through our psychological compatibility. If we imagine that the other party is vulgar or lack of culture, keeping distance with him is unequal mentality, so that the behaviors result in the estrangement and opposition between each other. In our eyes, a person looking down upon others also will be turned up the other party’s nose at him, even his behaviors will be reviled. So, when we don’t like the others’ life-style or custom, we’d better respect them equally. Never must we have an attitude with contempt. Don’t think that it is disgraceful if a gentle man talks with a person from different status with him.

Second, we need to learn to be interested in the other party. A person ignoring the others often has many difficulties, and his negative attitude is also equal to hurt the other party. Therefore, if we desire to get rid of aloneness and keep a good relationship with others, learning to be interested in the other party is very necessary.

Third, we must learn to forgive in the interpersonal communication. As we say in China, “if the water is too clean, there will be no fish”. Equally, if a person is too restrictive, his life must be limited in a small corner. Forgiving can add our wisdom, broaden our vision and make us become more atmosphere.

Finally, I want to stress the influence about respect and understanding. In the interpersonal communication, understanding is the basis of communication. Only mutual understanding and trust can make us gain a fulfilling relationship. Of course, understanding is based on mutual respect. If lack mutual respect, we can’t talk about understanding. As we know, a person’s living habits are from the traditional family influence and it is very difficult for them to change the rigid habits in a short time. If the other party’s behaviors don’t have direct interest influence during the cooperation, respecting the other party’s living-style is also to respect other’s character.