心理故事:我们永远有“离开”这个选项
2023-04-07 本文已影响0人
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写在最后的话 :
今天这个话题,让我想起了美剧《摩登情爱》里的一段情节。
女主玛姬是一个自由撰稿人,住在酒店式公寓里,一直谈着各种短暂的恋爱。当她带着伴侣回酒店时,门卫古兹敏先生,总能一眼就辨别出她身边形形色色的男人,到底值不值得托付。剧情的末尾,玛姬终于谈了一段稳定持久的恋爱,古兹敏也说她的男友通过了测试。
她好奇地问:“其实你到底是怎么看出来的呢?对的人,是有什么特点吗?”
古兹敏说:“我看的不是那些男人,我看的,是你的眼睛(所传递的内心)。”
当时我被这句台词深深打动到了。原来,一段关系好与坏,其实我们的内心感受已给出了答案。只不过,我们需要去练习着,把对这些感受的信任找回来。
今天分享的这4种感受,大家也可以反过来,作为「滋养型关系」的判断依据。
如果你在一段关系里——感到松弛、有足够的自我空间、你很少怀疑自己的感受,你发自内心地喜欢自己、接纳自己.......那么,我们可以多多去靠近这样的关系。
对于那些总是在伤害、消耗我们的关系,如果在与对方沟通后无法调整,也不要忘了:我们永远有“离开”这个选项。毕竟,我们确实没必要邀请那么多人进入自己的生命。