Christians’ marriage

I attended many friends or relatives’ wedding ceremony, but I’ve never attended Christians’ wedding. After I became Christian, I always have a dream that I can have an opportunity to hold my wedding in the church abroad. I don’t know whether I can realize the wish, but I will pray for my dream.

About Christians’ wedding ceremony, I consulted the issue to the sisters of the church. I learned that the Christians’ wedding must be solemn, and the new couple must take the oaths each other to the Lord under the pastor’s hosting. They must agree the pledge before the God. Before the wedding ceremony, the new couple must have gotten the marriage certification. The pastor, who hosts the wedding ceremony, must confirm the effective of the certification. Besides, the pastor needs to know the applicant’s quality and religion, and tell them about the sense of the marriage and love in Christ. If any re-marriage and others affecting the marriage are found, the wedding must be stopped.

Through searching the related materials on the website today, I know seven important warnings about Christians’ marriage in Christ. Now I’d like to learn the knowledge with you together. 

The first reminder is that love must be based on true love. There is no true happy in the marriage without true love. If either party finds lack of true love, their relationship should stop, not to mention to hold the wedding. Thus, it is very vital that both side must have a cautious choice.

About the second reminder, though it’s very wonderful for falling in the love in the first meeting, the rate of success isn’t high. The Lord’s rules tend to suggest that the Christians should follow the Marathon love. This type of love sometimes make the both pain, but once they are successful, the lovers finally get married and it equals Jack shall have Jill, which is very sweet. 

In addition, we often hear the saying that “Your love is from the will of the Lord.” However, there is an important warning that the word can’t be said casually to Christians and the Christians falling in love can’t listen to the word from others’ mouths. Because, whether their love is from the will of the Lord, both side should be clearer than other people. It is an unchangeable true that there is no unrequited love in the will of God.

Forth, a couple of successful love knows how to please each other. Especially women, they tend to pay more attention to their feelings, so Christians can’t ignore the mentality. For example, some women care about their birthday. When they start to date, if the boy can remember the girl’s birthday and give her a present, she must be happy. Of course, every one focus on different things. The rule only reminds that everyone should have a willing heart to please the other party in love or in marriage. 

Fifth, it is common that parents often care the children’s marriage. But if the parents force the children’ marriage instead of following the children’s will, it is the wrong care. As Christians, we should respect the parents, but we can’t follow the parents’ decision blindly. Equally, Parents should keep on an open-minded attitude to follow the children’s choice. 

2nd Corinthians 6:14 of the Holy Bible book said:” Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” From the scripture, It is not doubt that the common faith, ideal and hobby is very vital factor in the happy marriage. Christians should seek for the lover among the Christians to avoid the conflictions in marriage due to different point of views, which is the sixth warning.

The Final reminder is that love both side must pray to the Lord and get the reply from the Lord's will. As Christians, praying to God isn’t seeking for a sign in a temple, but receive some wonderful blessings from the Lord’s plans.