如何忽视他人——做真实的自我

我们如何做到去忽视他人对自己的恨，甚至是对自己的爱，去全身心的做真实的自己？

这篇文章给了一条小建议。

对我们来说，我们一直想做真实的自己，但这往往是最困难的，因为我们往往被这个世界裹挟着去做出改变。

The most difficult thing for a man to do is to be himself in a world that is constantly trying to change him .

(这是转述美国哲学家爱默生的话）

从我们上学那一刻起，我们就被教育要坐好，手背后面，不要乱跑，不要行为不端，要融入集体。

When we first start school,we are told to sit down and shut up .We are told not to run,don't misbehave ,we are told 

to fit in .

当我们以三好学生的姿态步入职场，你整天穿西服打领带，可是当有一天你穿着稍微张扬一点，同事会关心地问你：你还好吧！？

Let's say we survive the education system,and we are now out in the real world ,You are now a wording man ,and you need to wear a suit ,a tie,black pants ,done -up hair,nice shoes,nice watch and if you come into work one day looking even a little bit off,you might get called into the 

office and you''ll be asked,"Is everything OKay?"

我们需对标在大家想象中的自己，且不能出格。

We have an image that we have to maintain,and we can't have you looking lilke the way you are.

但是，如果我们在网上，与他人沟通，瞬时变得丰富起来，你个性的表现，会有人为你鼓掌叫好，会有人对你谩骂攻击，

You 'll either be loved or immediately attacked by the masses.

这两者犹如恶魔，往往都会让你迷失自我。

Both are demons that will destroy your art.

-因为，我们都太注重别人的感受，别人的评判，

那么，我们面对被爱或是被攻击时，如何能保持自我，？因为如果心受这外在情绪影响时，我们就无法产生出属于自己的价值

How can you be genuine when you are instantly attacked or loved ,for putting your unique self out there.Because of this 

,it is difficult to produce anything that is truly yours.

我们如何不沉迷与被爱中不能自拔

It's always tainted沾染 with ，how can I continue to produce work without getting addicted to these loveing feelings; 

或者，我们如何不为照顾那些之前攻击我们的人的满意的压力而继续我们的目标.,

Or how can I manipulate my next piece of art ,or Instagram picture,(著名的图片分亨平台）,to satisfy those who

previously attacked me .

如何做到？让我们从屋外的一只小鸟说起——早晨，有一只鸟在外面叽叽喳喳，

it's six in the morning ,and there is a bird outside .He is chirping(啁啾、鸣叫）。

其中一个自我，从旁边路过，他心里想：这只鸟真美丽，她的声音是如此的悦耳，我从来没听过这么好听的叫声，

A man walks by and hears the bird .And he thinks to himself,"Wow,this is the most beautiful sounding bird that I 

have ever heard."

这男人很爱慕这只小鸟，但鸟却并不受他的影响。

And the man adores(爱慕）the bird ,But the bird is not really impacted by this .

这只鸟不过就是做它每天做的事情——唱歌

The bird is doing what he does every day ,which is simply chirping in the morning.

让我们再来想象一下，另一个自我正在沉睡中，却被这只鸟给吵醒了。

Now let's imiagine there is a man who is trying to sleep in the building right next to the bird .And 

this man gets woken up by the chirping 

他会非常狂燥，

This man is so mad.

他劳累了一天，可这只可恶的鸟却不让他入睡！

He is trying to sleep for the first time in weeks,and the stupid bird is not letting it happen.

他当然恨她了

This man genuinely  hates the bird.

但这只鸟儿并不受此情绪感染，她不过在一直做她的事——唧唧地叫

But the bird is not affected by this ,The bird is simply doing what he does besdt ,and he keeps chirping away.

正如鸟儿一样，它并不受恨或爱或妒忌的影响，它只做它自己该做的，并尽力去做好。

Unaffected by the hate or the love ,The point is ,the bird is just doing him.

He doesnot care about the love or the hate ,or the envy,he is just doing what he does best.

我强烈建议你把这种观念融入你的生命中，

I invite you to take this concept into your own life.

尽全力去做，忽视外在的爱和恨——但要接受建设性的批评，

Do what you do  best,ignore the love and the hate.But accept the constructive criticism.

因为最重要的是，你要成就你自己

But more importantly , just be you .

英文资料摘自：《每日英语听力》APP - 《男性自我提升小技巧》

后记 ：以上鸡汤，要注意分辨——因为我们在做自己的事情的时候，要注意什么时候该忽视外在的爱和恨，什么是建设性的批评而去接受；

什么时候该去接受他人的关心，以及什么时机该去反击受到招惹的恨。。