孩子和大人的世界是不一样的！
社交情商力！
Social EQ!
这个话题其实很大，
真的是千言万语没法讲，
兔小兔不太喜欢与陌生人说话，
也不喜欢向长辈们打招呼，
这让我有点小焦虑。
It’s such a huge topic
that it couldn’t be put in simple words.
When seeing Little Bunny was not into
communicating with strangers
as well as the elders.
I could feel my anxiety a little bit.
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奶奶说，这太没有礼貌了，
兔爸爸说，这没什么，多去的人多的地方走走！
Granny Rabbit thought that’s not polite
While Daddy Rabbit insisted that it’s not a big deal
and that simply taking her to see more people
when going out would be good for her.
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当孩子与孩子在一起，
他们的话就多起来了。
As when kids were together,
communication between them
would never be aproblem.
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忽然，一个孩子哭起来，
说是另一个孩子踹了他一脚。
Suddenly there’s a boy crying out,
complaining that he was kicked by another kid.
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他的爸爸就冲过去，
教训孩子说，你怎么不踹回去？
于是，那个孩子的父母也冲上来，
终于，大家扭打成一团了。
The father of the crying boy rushed up to him,
telling him to kick back
would be a good defending way.
The parents of the other kid
also came up with tempers
And the situation inevitably
turned into a fight between parents.
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而那俩孩子，竟然又玩到一起来了。
兔小兔也加入进去！
The two kids were not bothered and
continued to play together,
Little Bunny happily joined in.
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那个刚才踹人的孩子，
拿着小积木又打哭了小兔。
Then the kid who just kicked
others got into trouble again.
He hit Little Bunny into tears
with a small piece of building block.
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“你也用积木打他一下，
让他尝尝痛的滋味。”
那个爸爸刚结束完上一场，
又跑过来灭火，
我说，“已经有一个孩子因此哭了，
何必让另一个孩子同样因此哭呢？！”
“Pick a piece of block and hit him back,
let him he taste the pain of being hit.”
These words were from the father
who just finished a fight.
I said to him,
“Here’s already a kid crying for
what just happened,
is it necessary to make a second kid cry ?”
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让孩子在人群中培养他们的交际能力，
自然需要承受必要的冲突与冲撞，
唯此孩子们才学会沟通与合作，
也会逐渐明白与他人的相处之道，
而在这个过程中，
需要父母们摒弃成人的
世俗观点或者假想臆断，
多从别人的角度去看问题，带着同理心，
俯下身去积极沟通，
以牙还牙，以暴制暴的失序方式，
都不适合播种在孩子的心田中。
To let children develop communication
skills with people
means facing inevitable conflicts
and clashes occurred,
it’s only in this way can children
learn to communicate and cooperate
and also get to understand
the art of getting along with others.
What parents should do is to avoid the secular views
and hypothetical assumptions,
to see things from others’ angles and to communicate
by leaning over with empathy.
The way of “a tooth for a tooth” or
“violence against violence”
can only cause disorder.
which absolutely is not suitable to be
put into children’s heart.
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孩子要知道，晚上的时间是父母大人的！！ 敬请期待！
