大师游戏II 078～灾难/礼物

今天是大师游戏第78天星期三，有人说灾难就是礼物，Treya患上了不治之症，这怎么可能是礼物呢？

If I get flashes of hospital deathbed scenes, I fear I may be giving energy to such an outcome, almost 'creating' it. I just
can't get it out of my head - what did I do to cause this? What did I do wrong? What am I saying to myself by getting cancer? Do I somehow not want to live? Is my will strong
enough now? Am I punishing myself somehow?" I began sobbing again, this time into my vegetable soup. Ken pulled his chair around and held me. "That's good soup, you know."

I'm frightened. How do I need
to change? Do I need to change? I want you to tell me what you honestlythink."

当Treya患上不治之症之后，死亡的念头就开始一直缠绕着她，她开始怀疑自己，到底是做了什么导致了今天这个让人难以接受的结果？

Treya开始问她的新婚丈夫，大名鼎鼎的Ken Wilber：“你是怎么想的？”

"I don't know what caused the cancer, and I don't think anybody does. The people that go around saying that cancer is caused primarily by repressed emotions or low self-esteem or spiritual anemia - they don't know what they're talking about. There is no credible evidence whatsoever for those
notions; they'rebasically put forward by people who are trying to sell you
something anyway.

Since nobody knows what
caused your cancer, I don't know
what you should change in order to
help cure it. So why don't you try
this. Why don't you use cancer as a
metaphor and a spur to change all
thosethings in your life that you
wanted to change anyway.

这真的是一个很难回答的问题，但是Wilber的回答太赞了！他竟然把负面的情绪转化成积极的意图，把一个灾难转化成一份礼物。

他对Treya说既然没有人知道是什么导致了它，为什么我们不利用它呢，为什么不把它当成一个改变的契机，让你开始改变你想改变的生命？

In other words, repressing certain emotions may ormay not have helped cause the cancer, but since you want to stop repressing those emotions anyway,
then use the cancer as a reason, as an excuse, to do so. I know advice is cheap here, but why not take the cancer as an opportunity to change all those things on your list that can be changed?"

那要如何改变了，Wilber使用了妻子的语言，使用了妻子想到的那些让她得Cancer的原因列表（比如过于压抑自己的情感），然后把列表中的负面表达全部转化成积极意图。

And don't change them because youthink they caused cancer - that will just make you feel guilty - change them simply because they should bechanged in any event. You don't need cancer to tell you what you need to work on. You already know. Solet's start. Let'smake it a new beginning. I'll help. It'll be fun. Really. Am I getting goofy or what? We could call it Fun with Cancer." We both started laughing out loud.

Cancer是多么可怕的一个词汇，但是在Treya和Wilber的内心世界里，它竟然变成了Fun。读到这里突然想起一句话：

你不能改变现实，但是你能改变对现实的看法。

用《能断金刚》的话来讲就是，Cancer本身是空性，关键在于我们怎么去看待它和利用它。

Cancer would certainly be a part of my life from now on, but not simply in terms of
constant checkups or constant awareness of the possibility of a recurrence. I was going to use it in as many ways as possible.

Philosophically, to get me to look at
death more closely, to help me
prepare to diewhen the time came, to
look at the meaning and purpose of
my life.

当Treya接纳Cancer是自己的一部分时，当Treya甚至开始利用和拥抱它时，灾难变成了礼物。