Between Parent and Child:经典句子

《Between Parent and Child》是本帮助父母更好的抚养孩子的一本书。可以从如何提高跟孩子更好的交流开始。
Between Parent and Child is a book written for parents to help them become more effective in raising their children, starting with improved communication.

BEST QUOTES 经典句子

• 怎么才能更好的跟孩子交流呢？不如先审视一下我们跟孩子交流。其实我们知道怎么说，比如说像我们对待客人、陌生人说话的语气。那是一种更注重语言技巧、不带行为指责的说话方式。

“Where do we start if we are to improve communication with children? By examining how we respond. We even know the words. We heard our parents use them with guests and strangers. It is a language that is protective of feelings, not critical of behavior.”

• 跟孩子交流是要基于尊重和讲究技巧的：(a) 不仅要保护父母的自尊心，同时也要保护孩子的自尊心；(b) 在给孩子意见和建议前，要表达出对孩子的理解。

“Communication with children should be based on respect and on skill; it requires (a) that messages preserve the child’s as well as the parent’s self-respect; and (b) that statements of understanding precede statements of advice or instruction.”

• 孩子在每天的亲身经历中学习和成长。他们就像还没有干的沥青路。任何落在上面的东西（语言）都会留下痕迹。这就是为什么父母学会跟孩子交谈很重要。父母要学会不要用语言去激怒孩子，不要用语言伤害孩子，不要打击孩子的自信心，不要让他们对自己的能力和自我价值失去信心。

“Children learn what they experience. They are like wet cement. Any word that falls on them makes an impact. It’s therefore important that parents learn to talk to children in a way that is not enraging, doesn’t inflict hurt, doesn’t diminish their children’s self-confidence, or cause them to lose faith in their competence and self-worth.”

• 家长想知道本书提倡的方法，在对孩子遵守纪律方面，是严格的还是宽松的。当孩子有错误的行为的时候，父母应当是严格的。但是，所有的感觉，愿望，欲望和幻想都是允许的，无论是积极的，消极的或矛盾的。就像已经是成人的我们，孩子对自己的感觉无能为力。有时候他们会感到贪婪，欲望，内疚，愤怒，恐惧，悲伤，喜悦和厌恶。他们无法选择他们的情绪，他们要对何时和怎么表达自己的情感负责。

“Parents want to know if the methods advocated in this book are strict or permissive regarding how they relate to discipline. They are strict when dealing with children’s misbehavior. But all feelings, wishes, desires, and fantasies are permissible, be they positive, negative or ambivalent. Like all of us, children cannot help how they feel. At some time they feel greed, lust, guilt, anger, fear, sadness, delight, and disgust. While they cannot choose their emotions, they are responsible for how and when they express them.”