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      What do people think of when they criticize people? Do they feel superior to the other person that is being criticized? Do they feel so angry that they kept yelling and pouring angry words out? It is possible that the more you criticize, the worse the relationship between you and the other person and the more difficult it is to solve problems and change the other person. I first had this epiphany last night.

Maomao finished practicing writing 5 and showed it to me, i first gave him positive feedback, including the bottom part was well written, then I gave him a polite suggestion that he should write the slash in a more vertical direction. He seemed to get a bit upset and started to show his angry expression. Normally, I would get angry as well and start to criticize him for being impatient and unsympathetic, and he would cry even louder. But last night I responded to his anger with cuddling and kissing, and also comforted him that it was OK to make mistakes,mummy used to make much more mistakes when I was of your age. His eyes lighted up and a smile appeared on his face. Quickly he minced back to his desk and rewrite the numbers.

The second time I had this epiphany was this noon. Some of the kids in class failed again in a vocabulary exam. If it were 10 years ago, I would probably have got outrageous and yelled at them for not working hard. The kids may feel guilty or feel sorry, m