Why we all need pain?

此文是我无意看到的一段文字，也符合我最近的心境，我分享出来，并加上自己的一些语句，分享给大家！
我们一起直视痛苦，理解痛苦，战胜痛苦，并珍惜和寻找快乐！

There isn’t much in the world that is more painful than a broken heart. And most will say that there’s no salve but time to take that pain away. But why are we so quick to speed through and even negate the pain? Why do we distract ourselves from feeling emotions that can actually help us find more closure on the love that has been lost?

Pain is part of life. And while it is seen by most as something to be avoided, pain can actually be a good thing. It opens a well and presents you with a valuable opportunity to grow. But it’s your job to decide what you are going to fill it up with — love or fear. And it’s this choice that can take you to an entirely new realm of possibilities, because even if you do not understand why you lost love, you know that there is something beautiful that can come from it. There’s something more inside of you because of it.

心碎的痛，你有过吗？
那种感觉或许会让你有点痛不欲生，然而过去之后，你发现自己成长了太多！
道理我们都懂，却依然过不好这一生，只因为我们只是懂得了道理，却没有去实践和理解，其实懂只是懵懂，我们并非真的懂！

痛苦，本只是我们生活的一部分，我们知道他只是暂时的，并且可以过去的，可是我们还是要沉浸在里面并不能自拔，其实没有关系的，不用责备自己，痛的时候，就哭泣吧，就为所欲为吧，你知道随着时间，她都会过去的，所以不必痛恨痛苦的时光，他是这生活必然存在的一部分。

有一天，你发现，你淡定多了！

REALIZATION

While it can be scary to acknowledge change, you can find strength by commanding it. Tell yourself that things will never be the same. That you will never be the same. But this is an opportunity to realize new levels of opportunity and growth. And this doesn’t just mean in the long run.

Realize that you may not be able to have control over what is happening, there are certain things you can control. For example: your body. When you take control of your body, the mind and emotions will respond. Become emotionally strong by first getting physically fit. Put your body first, get into a peak state, and you will be able to change your perspective on pain.

Realize that you also have the power to feed your mind. You can dwell in memories of your relationship and replay the breakup over and over. Or you can feed your mind information, poetry, spirituality. You can use the pain to discover more about yourself and what you want in life.

然而，我们最终能做的，就是不要刻意控制自己，其实随心，随意！
但是这个痛的时候，你可以去转移注意力，思考你曾经快乐甚至自豪的事情，吸引力法则是有用的，你所关注的事情，就会持续的来，否则你会在痛点上过多思痛！

记住：吸引力法则，永远有效！

Crying for what?

CONNECTION

Sadness allows us to connect with ourselves. As bad as it feels, we connect. We connect with our emotions, we connect with our memories and we connect with our thoughts. This is why it is comfortable to stay in sadness and difficult to transcend — we are meeting our need for connection.

The only way out of this is to have something else you want to connect with more. You have to ask yourself, what do you value more than your pain? Do you value helping other people more? Perhaps you value helping animals? Ask yourself: “What is the reason I am here?”

By shifting the focus from yourself to something else, you’ll learn how to gradually let go of your pain and move on. This is the power of contribution.

Understanding how to find meaning out of your pain is a way to take a broken heart and turn it into something that will help you grow and expand your ability to love. We have to go through the emotions of shock, denial, hurt and anger. But eventually there is acceptance. And the best way to reach peace is to find a higher meaning out of our need to serve others.

痛，转变到爱， 你便有了自己的蜕变！

UTILIZATION

If you can use your heartache to find a more empowering meaning, then you can take that same experience and say: “I’m going to take control of my life. I’m going to make a change.” Rather than sitting and becoming a reaction — making yourself the effect of the event — you are realizing that you have the power to determine what things mean and how you will approach life from this point forward.

One of the keys to utilization is envisioning a compelling future. What does your new vision look like? What are you going to be doing differently in the future? And what are you going to do differently today?

Remember, if you don’t take control and make the necessary changes, weeds are going to grow automatically. But if you learn and adapt, you can achieve a new level of living that would have never been possible had you not gone through the heartache you did.

记住，如果你不控制并做出必要的改变，杂草就会自动生长。但是，如果你学习和适应，你就能达到一个新的生活水平，如果你没有经历过你的心痛，你就不可能有新的生活。

You control your life