【20个方法，走向成熟】
纽约长老会青年焦虑防治中心(NewYork-Presbyterian Youth Anxiety Center)的临床心理学家瑞秋·金斯伯格(Rachel Ginsberg)参与了面向少年与青年的“跃向成年阶段项目”(Launching Emerging Adults Program)。
金斯伯格的客户缺乏情感准备以及读书学习和“走向成熟”的技能，此外还有社会焦虑问题——这些问题在大学会更加显著，导致生活脱离正轨。
|Emotional Readiness Challenges
|情感准备挑战
• Identify what you’re feeling and communicate it to others.
• 认清你的感受，并就此和他人沟通。
• Delay gratification and complete a less preferred task first.
• 延缓成就感，先完成自己没那么喜欢的练习。
• Practice “making room” for imperfection by turning in an imperfect assignment.
• 通过上交不完美的作业，练习为瑕疵“腾出空间”。
• Email your teacher or professor to clarify something on your own.
• 给你的老师或教授写电邮，自己澄清一些事情。
• Raise your hand in class and, when called on, start your sentence with “I’m having trouble understanding. …”
• 上课时举手，被叫到时，首先说“我不太能够理解……”
• Order food and then change your order.
• 在餐馆点菜，然后改变自己的选择。
• Approach a group of similar-age peers and ask them a question.
• 走向一群年龄相仿的人，问他们一个问题。
|Academic Readiness Challenges
|学术准备挑战
• Adhere to a schedule consistently.
• 坚持执行一个日程安排。
• Ask for help with or clarification on an assignment or test material.
• 就一份作业或考试材料寻求帮助或澄清。
• Walk into a class that’s already begun, rather than skipping it because you were running late.
• 走进一个已经开始上课的教室，不要因为迟到而旷课。
• Speak to your teacher or professor after class.
• 课后与你的老师或教授交谈。
• Make a phone call and ask basic (including “obvious” or “awkward”) questions.
• 打一个电话，问基本的（包括“浅显的”或“尴尬的”）问题。
• Call and make your own doctor and dentist appointments.
• 自己打电话预约医生和牙医。
| Daily Functioning ‘Adulting’ Challenges
|日常生活中“走向成熟”挑战
• Make your bed daily.
• 每天给自己铺床。
• Clean your room on your own.
• 自己打扫房间。
• Regulate your sleep by sleeping seven to eight hours a night, and going to bed and waking up at decent hours.
• 保证规律的睡眠，每晚睡七到八小时，早睡早起。
• Cook three basic meals. (Eggs, cereal and pasta don’t count.)
• 做三顿便饭。（鸡蛋、麦片和意面不算。）
• Return something to a store.
• 把某件商品退给商店。
• Get up on your own with an alarm.
• 靠着闹钟自己起床。
• Know the basics of finance (paying bills, writing checks and so on).
• 掌握基本的财务技能（支付账单、写支票等等）。
（source：NYT）
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